Introducing Mr and Mrs…?
Well, I’m not sure. I’ve been going back & forth about taking Jeff’s surname when we marry, and I’m really struggling to make my mind up about this one!
On the one hand, if I take his name then we’d be the same – like a family. My mom took my dad’s last name, so she was Mrs Poole, we were the Poole family. No double-barreled or anything like that, just the one name through-and-through. Jeff and I have talked briefly about having a family of our own one day, and if we do it would be important to me that we all have the same name…
…but I love my name! I’m Katie Poole. Katherine Poole. Sure, his surname sounds good matched against my first name, but it’s just not mine. It’s just not the same. My name has always been what defined me – it’s my Twitter handle and the namesake of this blog, after all! – and everyone already knows my name as Katie Poole. I’m proud of my name, and I don’t particularly want to change it.
And a double-barreled name? Forget it! Our names don’t match up well that way, either way around.
I’ve been trying to convince Jeff to take my name and become Mr Katherine Poole, but he’s just not having it. Like me, he’s very proud of his name as his identity.
I’ve talked with a few friends about this, and heard different pros and cons. One got a double-barreled surname and wishes she’d just changed her name to match her husband’s. Others kept their name and wouldn’t dream of taking their partner’s name, and still others changed their name and said it just felt so right to have the same name as their partner.
And yet: I’m still torn! Good thing I have a few more months to think this through…
So, my dear readers, what say you? Did you take your partner’s name when you married, or do you plan to take their name when you do? I can’t be the only one who feels so conflicted about this topic!